Notably, winter holidays are stressful; with all the extra running, decorating, baking, shopping, and trying to be merry - no wonder grouchiness sneaks up from time-to-time. Striving for perfection is futile. Consequently, we strive to secure our children's happiness by checking off the items on their Christmas lists. However, are the items on their lists what they genuinely desire. At the end of the day, would they rather have gifts or our time? One last question: Why and who are we trying to impress?
Let's consider the first sentence in the above paragraph. We are all involved in the chaos mentioned; all to varying extents, all with different tolerance levels. While I loathe the idea of running from place-to-place all day, or multiple days during the week, numerous people enjoy it. My idea of a perfectly relaxing, enjoyable day is: never leaving the house, vegging out on my couch with a hot cup of coffee, and binging on Netflix. For the extroverted, this may be a nightmare, a terribly unproductive day. My holiday business stress threshold is far lower than someone who loves the hustle and bustle. Hence the fact, that being extremely busy during anytime of the year is stressful. Stress leads to one cantankerous wife and mother. Cantankerousness leads to making comparisons which lead to guilt. I used to feel guilty all the time because I wasn't like the many so-and-so's I would compare myself to. We all do this, and we all need to STOP. Stop comparing yourself to the masses, there is no comparison, you are you, they are them. We can't be everyone, nor should we strive to, we need to accept who we are, we are all unique and gifted with the qualities that our children need. They don't need the mama down the street, they need you.
With that said, it's okay to be grouchy once-in-awhile during the holidays when we are overwhelmed, be that as it may, before taking it out on someone else, stop and reflect on why you're feeling this. Ask yourself: is there any unnecessary clutter in your life that you can clear out. Impressing our immediate family is crucial.